I came across the writing below and I stopped. I was thinking to myself at the time, huh? As a Co-
dependent is it possible to choose our feelings? Most Co-dependents don’t know how they feel due to be being so detached from themselves and wanting to avoid their feelings at all costs. Feelings can be too painful.
How could Co-dependents possibly choose their feelings?
That said, the note below struck a chord. It made me think for a moment and recognize I needed to
check-in with how I was feeling. I also learned the following:
1. I am not to feel bad about my feelings and not to be hard on myself for having these feelings.
2. Don’t blame others for how I feel. This is key. IF I do this, I am being a victim. Being a victim is not me.
3. My feelings come up for a reason. Are they due to something in my past? Or is there something unresolved I need to look at?
4. I am responsible for me and how I feel. Others are NOT.
5. The above is the beginning of my Self Mastery and I love this. To be the captain of my own ship.
Yes, that will do nicely, I thought to myself at the time. Do you want to be the captain of your ship?
I would love to know what your thoughts are on the writing below…
If your days seem filled with unwanted negative feelings, there is only one cure. When they come, choose them. Don’t ask why, don’t wonder how, don’t fight them, and never put yourself down for having them. But most of all never blame someone else for how you feel. If you do, it means you are still fast asleep, and your choice is to be a victim.
When the feelings come, even big disturbing emotional feelings, say “I choose this feeling” and know it comes because of something you have thought or done in the past, perhaps a certain belief that you have learned or an attachment that is threatened.
Choice does not mean you want the feelings, but it does mean you are taking responsibility for them.
That is the beginning of self-mastery. It is the first step to the healing and resolving of your emotions. But only the first step. Try this today and then ask yourself what the next step might be.
If you are really interested to know, you will come to know!
Warmest wishes, Maria.
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