The most powerful anchor on your potential to soar high in life is the past. The past contains the dead weight of experience, learned beliefs and all your mistakes. Life cannot truly begin until you are able to say goodbye to the legacies of yesterday at will. Like a filing cabinet, the past is a resource of information for learning, but it is not a place to live. When you go to work do you spend your day in the filing cabinet?
The problem for many folks (I am one of these) is that to be Co-dependent can mean living in the past.
What do I mean by this?
IF you grew up with untreated addiction or maybe suffered some trauma in your young life or early adulthood you can become co-dependent in your behaviour. That is denying ourselves, our needs and wants, and focusing on others to feel better about ourselves.
I have yet to meet a co-dependent person, (who has done very little work on themselves) to not live in the past unknowingly. Do you live in the past? This can mean bitching and griping about family, parents, or past romantic relationships.
To recover from co-dependency, we must address our past trauma’s. There is other work to be done, but this is mandatory to recover and move on.
Ask yourself this… How often will you/do you live in the past today?
Do you want to say goodbye and make it final? If you do, this is an incredible achievement itself. Work will need to be done, but if your desire is greater to move on, you will do this work and find your teacher. Saying farewell to yesterday, last month and last year is the sign of a person who wants to live for today. But in doing so you open yourself to all the possibilities of ‘the moment’, while fully aware that all you think, say and do right now, creates your tomorrow.
You have the power to create your future if your life is currently not heading in the direction you want to travel. Remember, to clear the pathway to your desired future means to move on from the past and begin to soar.
Warmest wishes, Maria.
