The biggest disease of the mind is over-thinking, especially too much thinking about others: What they do, what they did, what they should do, what they should have done, what they said, what you wished they had said, does any of this sound familiar?

These is totally Codependent behavior and I have suffered from this over thinking and over analyzing for most of my adult life. That is, until I realized what I was actually doing.
Robbing me of my inherent serenity and not getting what I wanted from life. I was helping others achieve their goals, whilst mine took a back seat. I never fully understood how this thinking robbed me of so much and that it was part and parcel of my codependent behavior, focusing too much on others to my detriment.

Thinking too much is like eating too much. The heaviness makes it impossible to remain light and flexible.

With this over thinking, we get stuck on little things and gradually the little things become huge things which we cannot shake off. I can still hear my other half say to me, you are over thinking it, you are making too much of something that is not that important. In the past I did not understand him, today I do.

Often when we think too much we fantasize and overreact. Thus, we create negative feelings. To overcome codependency, we need to as a minimum heal from our past trauma’s and silence and soften our inner critic. We definitely need to be positive and not go anywhere that leads us to thinking negatively. I know that, as we think it we create it. Does this make sense?


Warmest wishes, Maria.